When you’re getting to know someone you’re interested in dating, the topic of sex is bound to come up. The way that you initiate that conversation is truly important. You can mess up a good thing if you don’t know the proper way to engage in sexual conversation. So, how should you bring it up? When should you bring it up? How much is too much? Here’s how to have a sexual conversation with a woman. Let’s get into it, shall we?
Before you decide that you want to engage in sexual conversation with a woman, there are some things we need to make sure of. If you are contemplating having sexual conversation with a woman you’re still sliding in the DM’s for… not a good idea. If you’re wanting to strike up sexual conversation with a woman you barely know–probably not the best idea. If you want to start a sexual conversation with a woman who is already taken… don’t do it. If you’re going to engage in sexual conversation with a woman you need to make sure that she is mutually interested in you as well. If you’re not sure if you’re in the friend zone or not, you need to use some playful banter and flirt a bit to gain some clarity. It’s okay to say, “you’re really sexy to me. I find myself really attracted to you.” You don’t have to say that exactly, but you need to find the right way to ask her if she is interested in you by expressing the fact that you’re interested in her. Trust me, the way that she reacts to your comment will let you know if she is interested in you. If she says “thank you” and simply accepts the compliment, she probably isn’t into you in that way. If she blushes or her body language shows that she is flattered, that is a good sign. She may also be woman enough to tell you right then that she is just as attracted to you. Remember that we are talking about more than sexual attraction.
Engaging in sexual conversation with a woman doesn’t start with a conversation at all. It starts with sexual attraction. You’ve got to be confident and sexy–even if you’re not all that attractive in looks. Not every man is a looker, that’s just facts, but it doesn’t mean that you don’t have the power to attract a woman with other things. Confidence is always the sexiest thing any person can wear. You can woo a woman by being masculine and confident far more than you can attract her with just your looks. You could look like Idris Elba and lack that confidence and masculinity, then you might as well be Forest Whitaker. No shade, seriously. I just needed this to be visual.
Once you’ve determined that she is actually sexually attracted to you, you’re ready to begin the conversation. When you bring up the sexual conversation, don’t jump right into it. Flirt lightly and warm her up first so that the conversation moves smoothly and isn’t forced. Remember, the key is to be masculine, smooth, and sexy. You want to flatter her, not offend her. And if you’re not careful you can cross that line pretty quickly. Carry normal conversation, but be flirtatious and witty. You will find times where you can slide in flirty things that imply sexual attraction without outright asking her about her sexual desires. For example, if you ask her what her favorite way to relax is, you could tell her that you’re really gentle to the touch when giving massages. Don’t be a creep about it though. Remember, masculine and sexy.
A woman will tell you how well she’s receiving what you’re saying with her reactions and body language. Pay attention to these signs. Again, she could also be the type of outspoken women who is comfortable saying exactly what she feels, but still you want to flatter her, so no matter how much you want to be forward with her, take it slow. Leave her wanting more and leave something to her imagination. Make her wonder about what it would be like to be with you that way.
As much as I’d love to give you some direct examples on how to get the sexual conversation started, it’s better when the confidence is natural. I don’t want you to sound rehearsed because it would be easy to blow it. Remember that you want to woo her with sexual attraction by being confident and masculine. You want to flatter her without offending her. You want to take her on a journey through her mind about just how sensual you can be with her body. You want to be descriptive without being nasty, as well. Although many would argue that everyone has a little freak in them, some things are better left unsaid. You want the conversation to be tasteful so that she engages and doesn’t rebel. Pay attention to her reactions and her body language. Let her reactions and responses lead the conversation. Ask her things so that she can respond and in turn, drive the conversation. She will be clear about whether or not she wants you to keep talking to her about it. If she ends the conversation, don’t keep pushing her into it. Your patient with her because you want her and you’re a gentleman. So, easy does it, Big Guy.