It’s time to heal, baby.
I’m not sure if it’s out of fear or if you are just having trouble understanding that healing is possible, but I promise you it is. I know it’s a lot easier to say that because you’re a brokenhearted Black man you can’t love or trust again, but that simply isn’t true. There are so many women out there that want to teach you how to love again, but you have to be willing to accept it.
In order to accept that fact, you have to come to terms with your heartache and all of it’s components. You have to find it in your heart to forgive the person who broke your heart and be at peace with the experience. Right now, it might feel like I’m selling you a dream, but again, healing is truly possible. There are several ways to begin your healing process should you take interest in them. Occupy your time, get rid of reminders, go out with friends, treat yourself, listen to your emotions, literally take as much time as you need to get over it and get back out there!
Now, I know that I said that there is a beautiful woman out there waiting to show you how to use your heart again, but you can’t let her do that before you have dealt with your pain as I mentioned above. It might be a little confusing, but it is unfair to pursue women with a broken heart that you have not yet allowed to heal. You see, this is how accidents happen. This is how you break other women’s hearts because you pursued them without ‘being ready for a relationship’. This is how you break other women’s heart because ‘you can’t trust them’. Remember, without trust there is nothing. You can’t ask for love that you are unable to reciprocate–and I don’t mean reciprocating exactly what she’s doing. However, you can show reciprocity by opening up and allowing her to treat your heart with the love and care that it deserves. Don’t doubt the love of a woman, honey. It can truly do wonders.
So, if you identify as a brokenhearted Black man, give yourself the time you need to heal before you get back out there. That way we can spare each other the casualties of the heart. Still, get back out there. Don’t shut love out. When you do that, it’s going to blow your mind at how appreciative you’ll be to the woman who is waiting for you once you find her. She can show you love in a way that you probably haven’t seen yet. And you know the best part? You’ll actually be able to receive it!
Here’s to healing, sweetheart.