One of the most common reactions I’ve received from New Yorkers is “Oh my goodness, you’re [too] nice.” You seriously wouldn’t believe how many people say that to me. The funny thing is, I’m normally not being ‘nice’, but civil. I say good morning when I walk past someone, I give to the homeless if I have it, I offer to give my seat up on the train if an elder or a woman is standing up–you know, little things. But in doing this and getting these reactions I’ve learned that we are so selfish and rude in our ways these days that it is shocking to see someone act selflessly. We also feel the need to compete with one another instead of building each other up. I’d like to take a moment to thank @justmaiah for the kindest words, which inspired this particular entry.
Shemaiah shared with her Instagram followers: “I told you all if I know them personally, my #WCW wouldn’t be wasted on just a pretty face.
Because I think a woman with a beautiful mind, dedication, drive, and a dream are much more attractive, and this young lady–excuse me, young Goddess–Isis Nezbeth, exemplifies ALL of those attributes. I can’t say that I’ve gotten to know Miss Isis personally, but the love, devotion, and spirit she puts into doing what she’s passionate about speaks volumes. She’s told me more about her than ‘hanging out’ ever could. It’s a blessing to be able to watch someone prosper, grow, and go where they’ve been led and it’s inspiring to me as well! [To Goddess Isis] I just want you to know the work you do never goes unnoticed. And the fact that you’ve never let what anyone could possibly say about your sex, your skin, your personal life, your hair, your location–your anything–stop you, is one of the most beautiful qualities that a person can possibly possess. YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and that is something very special. Thank you for dreaming, thank you for working hard, and thank you for not giving a damn what anyone else thinks; because… well, there are those of us who look up to what you’re doing without even knowing you. “I know who I am, and who I may be, If I choose.”“
Shemaiah’s selfless appreciation for seeing another woman strive to follow her dreams and grow mentally is so admirable. When was the last time you let someone know how much you appreciate their efforts and hard work? It’s probably been a minute. Don’t assume that people already know they are doing well. People need to hear and feel support daily. Outside of supporting a dreamer, act selflessly. Show acts of kindness daily. You never know when you might need the same generosity reciprocated. Take yourself back to the times your parent’s told you to treat people the way you want to be treated. This is definitely a rule to live by.
I find refuge in being a downright good person. I know I’m certainly not where I should be spiritually, but I know that I make an earnest effort daily to be ‘more like Him’ by being a good hearted person. I try and help whoever, whenever needed, in whatever way I can manage. I don’t worry about the things I don’t have because blessing others will surely leave you blessed and highly favored. We work so hard to prove ourselves to people who aren’t worthy and in a way we seek validation from even our ‘haters’ because we aren’t satisfied until we have ‘haters’ instead of seeking out uplifters and supporters. We all know a ‘Negative Nancy’ whose sole desire in life (or so it seems) is to verbally denounce the hard work and efforts of anybody trying to do better for themselves. Are you one of those people? Don’t be ashamed; CHANGE. We as humans are so judgmental. It’s disgusting. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made the bible tells us. Leave the judging to the Lord and work to see the good and the beauty in everything around you.
It’s obvious that (especially amongst the Black community) we hate seeing others doing better than we are doing. I’m not sure if it’s a fear of rejection or maybe we’re too prideful, but I’ve never understood why we don’t help each other out! Let someone know if you admire them or look up to them because if they’re anything like me, they’ll appreciate it so much that they want to help you get where they are in life. If you’re one of those people who could potentially be a role model for someone, reach out to your supporters and community. Make sure they understand that if you could dream it and achieve it, so can they! We have to start with us. I feel like we, the BLACK people, are the only race who would rather compete with each other instead of build on each other. We’re satisfied with building personal Kingdoms, but we’re capable of building a dynasty. We MUST work together. We MUST support us. WE MUST UNITE.
Thank you Shemaiah for pointing out that people are watching me and are being motivated by my drive. I promise to continue moving forward and ANYONE that wants to grab my hand along the journey is more than welcome to accompany me.
Peace and Love, good people,