SEX SELLS (and could pay your tuition): The Duke U Freshman Porn Star Story

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How many times have you been pulling an all-nighter and felt just like the girl pictured above?  I know I’ve felt like that. College is EXPENSIVE and the price of an education seems to keep rising with time. So, to what extent are you willing to go to pay your tuition?

If you haven’t heard about ‘Lauren A.’ of Duke University, it is a must that you read her story. Long story short though, Lauren (the name they are using to protect the identity of the young lady) is a freshman at the popular Duke University. Aurora (her alias) is a porn star. When Lauren came back to school after Christmas Break Aurora had been exposed and the word of Lauren being a porn star spread around the large campus faster than you can imagine. Lauren explained that “every penny she makes” from being a sex worker goes toward her nearly $60,000 tuition.

That’s deep, right? This article was shared with me and really caught my attention and obviously the attention of millions of others as it’s been shared via social media. I want to take a minute to share my response:

A lot ran through my mind as I read Lauren’s story. Of course, I was proud of her for addressing the situation head on and publicly defending her name and occupation of choice. I could also relate to her from a certain aspect–cyber bullying. When I was a freshman at Georgia State, some really nasty rumors were spread about me the same way so many people found out about Aurora–college gossip boards. Luckily, people spoke out in my defense before I even knew I was a topic of discussion, but I too did like Lauren did and made sure everybody heard from MY MOUTH what was true and what wasn’t. On top of that, my girl spoke very well and made some really valid points. Although I don’t necessarily agree with everything she said in her post, this particular piece really stood out for me:

I am well aware: The threat I pose to the patriarchy is enormous. That a woman could be intelligent, educated and CHOOSE to be a sex worker is almost unfathomable.

I find it interesting that porn (a billion-dollar industry) is consumed by millions of people – men and women (and all other equally wonderful genders) alike — yet no one is willing to consider the lives of the people behind the camera. No one wants to hear about the abuses and exploitation that take place, no one wants to hear about the violence committed every day against sex workers, no one wants to consider that we have hopes and dreams and ambitions.

No, all we are is “whores and bimbos.”

In my eyes, she called us all out. And by all, I mean every single one of us who does watch or has watched porn because there’s no need to lie… many of us do watch it. Unless they were famous porn stars, like Jenna Jameson, I didn’t recognize the ‘ordinary’ women as actresses and yes, I’m guilty of at least thinking of them as degrading individuals even if I didn’t physically call them a whore. Lauren brought this to my attention. We do the same thing with strippers. The one’s who dance on television are fine with us, celebrities even, but if our friend told us “You know, I really love to dance and I like my body. I think I may try stripping to make a little extra cash” many of us would flip out!

As much as we may try to deny it, for some women having sex and pole dancing is a passion and an artistic outlet. Who are we to defy what they feel is valuable to them? I’m not saying to quit school and be a porn star or stripper guys, but I am saying that we should recognize that those are fields with a market and that there are people in this world who choose to work in that field. I honestly feel that if people weren’t so concerned with what others would think, a whole lot more people who try some of those exotic occupations.

I am always encouraging my readers to do what they love. No, being a pornographic actress didn’t cross my mind at the time I’ll admit it, but Lauren shared:

For me, shooting pornography brings me unimaginable joy… It is my artistic outlet: my love, my happiness, my home.

I can say definitively that I have never felt more empowered or happy doing anything else. In a world where women are so often robbed of their choice, I am completely in control of my sexuality. As a bisexual woman with many sexual quirks, I feel completely accepted. It is freeing, it is empowering, it is wonderful, it is how the world should be.

There’s no telling if Lauren will feel this way about being a pornographic actress all her life and it’s safe to say that she is doing what’s necessary to escape the field if necessary, what with attempting to obtain a college degree. But it is safe to say that as of now, she is happy with what she is doing and that’s okay with me. We all know Beyonce’s song Flawless–did you really listen to what Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said towards the end?

We raise girls to each other as competitors. Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men.
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are. Feminist: the person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.

I couldn’t agree more Chimamanda.

“Dear Lauren, 

First, let me commend you for your courage to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. Second, I want to apologize for some of the cruel individuals that make up our world.  Don’t allow them to get the best of you. That puts you above those who choose to compel and degrade you for your personal choice–you go girl. I completely understand that it is easier said than done, but I’m no stranger to this type of cyber bullying and although it weren’t for the same reasons, it occurred during my freshman year at a big university as well–so trust me when I say this too shall pass, honey. Keep your head held high and do what makes you happy. Just be smart about it. Thank you for sharing your story.

All my love.”

-Goddess Isis of The Goddess Column

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2 thoughts on “SEX SELLS (and could pay your tuition): The Duke U Freshman Porn Star Story”

  1. The reality tells Belle Knox is that sex workers are criticized, prejudiced, taunted and ridiculed, well at least ones who attend affluent elite schools, because perhaps that profession is only purportedly reserved for the downtrodden, not for the well to do future female ivy warriors of society.

    Assuming of course one is rich enough to avoid having to resort to large debts or minimum wage jobs in their way to becoming part of the elite….. so porn, naturally becomes the next logical choice in getting yours too. Or does it?

    http://scallywagandvagabond.com/2014/03/belle-knox-outs-herself-as-the-duke-university-freshman-adult-star-at-last/

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