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Raise your hand if you’re a grown woman.

There are several things I believe every grown woman should be capable of doing, but there are five things in particular I feel should be non-negotiable in order for us to meet the standards of a true “grown woman.” Before anyone feels attacked, I promise, they don’t have anything to do with where you live, where you work, or what kind of car you drive. Let’s get into it!

1.  How to prepare a well-balanced meal.

I get that not every woman wants to be ‘Suzy Homemaker’, don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking you to channel Bobby Flay or to be the next Food Network Star, but at most you should have enough skill to look at a recipe, follow it, and produce a sufficient meal. Having been raised by a Belle, meal preperation was definitely instilled in me at a very young age and while some may not agree with me, I think it’s necessary skill to have. Your people gotta eat, girl!

2.  How to be a genuine caregiver.

Coming of age, all the grown women I looked up to were always seen as a resource for those in need. Without thinking about what she will get out of it or what she would have to do in order to be a help, they were always ready and willing to get the job done. It’s these types of qualities in women that help the world go ’round. Being able to give of yourself for the good of others is an extremely important trait to embody and I think the majority of grown woman out there can attest to that.

3.  How to encourage someone.

A grown woman should know how to give fruitful advice, offer prayer, and/or be a voice of encouragement if and when need be. Many women overlook the power that we have on the inside of us. I mean, we have the ability to birth new lives for goodness sake! There will absolutely come a time where you will have to encourage your child or someone else’s at some point in time. Every grown woman should know how to plant seeds and be a vessel in the lives of others.

4.  How to create and hold fruitful conversations.

It never fails to amaze me that so many millennials have not yet experienced nor do they understand the true art of conversation. Fruitful conversation can transform thought. It can lighten the load of burdens carried over a course of time. It can shed light on a connection that might not have otherwise been recognized without an exchange of words. Conversation is powerful. Every grown woman should be able to spark, hold, or engage in a valuable conversation.

5.  How to dress ‘the part’.

Every grown woman should know how to dress appropriately for anywhere she may have to go. That means knowing the ins and outs of the appropriate dress styles for the appropriate places. Sure, it’s okay to need to know whether or not a color is appropriate or if a top is just a little too tight, but ultimately you should know what goes and what doesn’t. It doesn’t have to be an all day, everyday affair, but when the time calls you should be able to turn heads and all, sis. Always classy, never trashy!

Again, I am not coming for your neck ladies, just encouraging all of us to make sure that we focus on some of the other things a grown woman should be able to do. Years to come, it won’t matter if your eyebrows were on “fleek” or whether or not your hair was “slayed.” We are responsible for raising the next generations of humans. Let’s make sure we are ready for such an amazing task!

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