Single Life

Articles on living the single life.


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How to Avoid Having A Bad First Date

Have you ever felt like Mindy? I’m sure we all have. The truth is, what gets me the most about being single is that I love going on dates! Don’t you? I do all that I can to make sure my date has a great time, yes, even if that means paying. I think the only bad thing about going on dates is that just because you enjoyed it doesn’t mean that your date did. Over the weekend, I ate out a couple times and observed some really, really bad dates happening which led me to write about how to avoid […]


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5 Truths About Loneliness

If you’re reading this right now, I’m guessing you’ve been feeling like I have recently–a little lonely. That’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s nothing to jump for joy about either, but still it’s a normal emotion and we all feel that way sometimes. Loneliness can really have an emotional toll on you if you allow it to and that’s what I’d like to avoid for the both of us. When loneliness sneaks up on me, there are five things I always have to remind myself of in order to get and keep myself out of the “nobody loves me” mindset. You’re overlooking the people […]


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3 Good Reasons To Go For The One Who’s Not Your Type 2

We don’t like to admit it much, but I believe we all have certain qualities we sort of ‘look for’ in a potential mate. There’s nothing wrong with that. I often say, “I don’t have a type…”  just like the rest of us, but really what I mean when I say that I wouldn’t be closed minded about getting to know anybody. To be honest, I fall in love with people every day. I look at character far more than I look at anything else in a person. That doesn’t mean that I don’t prefer darker men to lighter men […]


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The Life of the Highly Sexual Woman

I’ve been putting this article off for years now considering what people might make of it. It takes a good bit of courage for me to write these types of pieces for you guys because old memories and the potential judgmental thoughts of others sometimes get the best of my energy. Luckily, I can say that I’m in complete control of my energy these days and I am now, as I always have been, very comfortable in my sexuality. Unfortunately, there are so many stereotypes, double standards, and wrongful judgment that come with being a highly sexual woman, but I’m […]


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9 Reasons to Justify Your Masturbation (YES, we know you do it)! 2

Yes, I know. It’s feels a little awkward to admit it, but that’s okay. Always remember statistics are always a Google search away. Give it a whirl and you’ll see that you’re not alone in your interests for reading today’s post. As beautifully individual as we were all created, we all feel differently about masturbating. This is not intended to upset or offend anyone who does not feel comfortable engaging in the act… nevertheless, don’t spoil it for the rest of us! Let’s get into it!


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‘My Goodies–NOT MY GOODIES’: Celibate and Dating 1

Today’s entry will be an extra special one. Although it’s been a while now, a dear friend of mine sent me a request that read: “Baby girl, can you do a piece on trying to be celibate and dating in today’s world? As a God-fearing woman, this poses a lot of difficulties because a lot of men–while they may respect what you are trying to do–won’t venture into this with you because they want a woman that will have sex with them. I find this interesting and want to know if other people have tried this and found the same […]


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How to be Happy

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How can you not feel the complete desire to get up and do your best rendition of ‘the happy dance’ when Pharrell’s song Happy plays? I’m thoroughly convinced that the only people who don’t care for this song, don’t know the divine happiness that I’ve grown to fall in love with–and I think that’s unacceptable–but as usual, I’m here to lift you up not tear you down. Happy people spread happiness and that’s exactly what I plan to do. Here’s my take on how to be happy… genuinely Happy.

Start every day in a good mood.

How can one expect to live a happy life if you can’t even have a happy day? That means whatever it takes to start your day off in an amazing way–do that. First things first, YESTERDAY already happened. Don’t start your day worrying. No matter what happened yesterday, the only thing on your mind as soon as you wake up should be being thankful for opening your eyes to a brand new day.  Thank God for the opportunity!

Show gratitude. 

A humble person is thankful for all things and doesn’t take things for granted. A grateful person makes sure that the people they appreciate know that they are appreciated. A grateful person gives compliments. A grateful person is a kind person. Kind people are happy.

Come to terms with your past. 

If you can’t accept your past, you won’t be able to embrace the future. An easy way to almost guarantee humility within yourself is to accept your past for all that it is and be thankful that you’ve made it to where you are now–because let’s face it… I don’t think anyone’s past is just glitter and gold. The minute you are able to come to terms with the good, the bad, and the hideous that make up your earlier stages in life you won’t feel the pressure and stress of trying to 1) hide it from others, 2) hide it from yourself, or 3) actually deny that it happened at all. Ultimately, you’ll learn to make peace with your past and believe you, me… that is something to be happy about.

Be good to others. 

I know it sounds cliche, but the fulfillment you can receive from doing good to others, for others, and by others is damn near unexplainable. Everyone likes to feel like they’ve impacted someone’s life in a positive manner. This is an easy way to make sure that you do. And don’t forget, a small gesture of kindness really goes a lot further than you might imagine for some people. One of my favorite ways to make someone’s day is paying for the car behind me when I’m in the drive-thru of a fast food restaurant. “If you can make someone else happy, do it. The world need’s more of that.”

Take care of yourself. 

A healthy mind and body is a key factor in happiness. The better care of yourself you take the less stress and negativity will be able to affect you. Taking care of yourself means eating as healthily as you can, exercising regularly and also taking care of your outer appearance. Feeling good on the outside is just as important as feeling good on the inside. We try and lie about it sometimes, but everyone loves a compliment. Get dressed everyday. You never know where your day can take you… may as well make sure your looking just as good as you feel to up the ante!

Live for yourself. 

I wouldn’t wish a life full of regret on my worst enemy. It pains my soul to think of those who trap their spirits for the likes of others. Be true to who you are. Believe in your dreams. Follow your heart. Make your own decisions. Make mistakes. Fail. All of this is a part of life and is completely healthy for you. The important thing is to understand that whatever you do–don’t do it for anybody else’s happiness but your own. I am firm believer that we are in control of our own happiness. If you’re not happy, it’s more than likely because you don’t want to be.

Do what you LOVE. 

At this point in my life, this one is the most important to me. A huge part of why I can live so happily by way of the five things listed above is because I do what I absolutely adore to do for a living. I am walking in my purpose daily and that makes waking up happily, being grateful, being humble, showing kindness–everything we’ve talked about–so very easy and desirable.

Smile.

A smile from a person who is genuinely happy is complete gold. It’s contagious. It makes you feel good and the people who see it feel good. Our heart and spirit needs to smile. This is the ultimate goal in being happy. When you can genuinely smile for no reason at all… you are happy.

This is how I do it. I’m sure it could work for you. At least give it a try… what have you got to lose? Get your happy dance on…