I am now, as I always have been, very comfortable in my sexuality.
Unfortunately, there are so many stereotypes, double standards, and wrongful judgments that come with being a highly sexual woman, but I’m going to make some of those things clear right now. Here are 15 things you need to know about the life of a highly sexual woman.
1. Sex can be emotional, but it doesn’t have to be.
This is arguably the most misunderstood fact about being a highly sexual woman. Sex can and most times is completely physical for the woman indulging. This isn’t only for women who are highly sexual beings. Yes, fellas, it was just sex. It’s stress relieving and therapeutic. Thanks for your time. Buh-bye now.
2. Masturbation is a way of life.
No shame in the masturbation game. At this point, she doesn’t even need the porn. A candlelit bubble bath and wine are all a sexual woman needs to get this party started.
3. Men are usually both intrigued and intimidated by her freedom.
This is arguably the most frustrating fact about being a highly sexual woman. Her sexuality is astounding to them (especially if they’ve heard anything [true or false] about her), but her sexual freedom intimidates their masculinity as well. Don’t let them tell you different. It’s true. It takes a very solid man to deal with her kind.
4 . She’s either a sex god or a whore in the eyes of others.
Simple as that. Yes, I exaggerated because people are extra. It’s like your not allowed to a sexual woman. She can’t just be a confident woman who is comfortable exploring and enjoying her sexuality—oh no. For most, she’s either a sex legend or she’s walking with a scarlet letter. The end.
5. A lot of her friends come to her for sexual how-to and advice.
I actually enjoy this part of being a highly sexual woman and to my knowledge, other highly sexual women are fond of it too. Because we’re comfortable in our sexual behaviors, it’s nice to shed a little light on why that is. She likes to educate her friends and anyone who asks her questions so that they can find their sexuality as exhilarating and enjoyable as she does.
6. Sometimes she’ll quit after one hit.
The only thing worse than no sex at all is BAD sex. Period. You can bet your bottom dollar that you only get one shot to ‘wow’ a highly sexual woman, one time. Should you disappoint, she will NOT be back for seconds. I promise.
7. “I fuck who I want, and fuck who I don’t.”
That’s the bottom line. It’s never as many people as others would think, but either way, we don’t look at it as numbers. A highly sexual woman has the leisure of picking her partners just as carefully as she chooses her selfies. When you engage in a highly sexual woman it’s because she chose you to. Believe that!
8. She gets very few bad reviews.
A bad report doesn’t happen often, if at all. It’s a moment of pride for her to share her sexual drive and passion with those that she chooses to let experience it.
9. There is a difference between sex and love.
Again, this is another one of those myths that will really frustrate a highly sexual woman because so many people feel that we aren’t able to connect or disconnect love and sex. Just because she is highly sexual woman does not by any means mean that she cannot be faithfully committed to one partner.
10. A healthy, lasting relationship is a very possible thing.
A confident highly sexual woman will not for any reason let the judgment of others force her to believe that a healthy, lasting relationship is not realistic and obtainable.
11. Nothing hurts like “not now, babe.”
At this point in the life of a highly sexual woman, her desire for her partner burns passionately… pretty much all the time. Now, it’s no mystery that her urge to make love will be stronger than her partners, but that doesn’t make the rejection for fun-time hurt any less.
Multiple times At least once a day shouldn’t be an issue.
Again, when a highly sexual woman finds a man that can handle her and wants to be with her and only her, that passion for him is I N T E N S E, to say the least. That means that yes, 9 times out of 10—she’s hot in the pants for her man and if he lets her get it, she’s gonna go for it every time.
13. She constantly wants to try new things.
A lot of love-making means you have to keep things innovative and fresh to make sure that you two wear each other out, but don’t get tired of one another. A highly sexual woman understands the importance of going all out to keep her man and herself happy. Exploring new things is a great way to build trust and to keep the relationship on the up-and-up. You’d be surprised at how much this can do for your relationship.
has to be with is probably better off with a highly sexual man.
This I am willing to debate, but from my own personal experience, relationships have been healthiest for me when I was committed to someone whose sexuality was as strong as mine. What do you think?
15. Sex with her is an experience… and she knows it.
I’m willing to bet that any man who is in a relationship with (or has even had a one time experience with) a highly sexual woman has little to no complaints about the intimacy the two of them share. The passionate, wild, sensual connection you share with someone you’re growing with is incomparable, at least while it lasts.
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