If you didn’t know, I’m always an open ear you can come to with your issues, just send me an email with details on what you’re needing advice with and I’ll do my best to help you out! Yesterday, I received an email from a female reader who needs a little advice.
Her letter read:
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months now. Things were really great for the first three/four months, but lately I’ve noticed a big difference in our connection.
We’re normally really good about talking our problems out and the only thing I can think of that might be taking a toll on us is the argument he and I always have about me giving him head… he’s always arguing that I don’t do it long enough and that I don’t ‘get into it’ but the truth is, I’m not into it.
Do you have any suggestions on ways to ‘get into it?’ I really don’t want this to be the reason why me and my boyfriend can’t continue to grow. ”
Thanks for reaching out lady! Listen, you’re not the only one who feels some kind of way about giving head, but it is pretty important to understand that it is a very vital part of the relationship for the man involved. There are ways to enjoy it though. For me personally, as I’ve mentioned before, l take pleasure in pleasing my partner. So, this means the more into it that I can hear, feel, and see my partner becoming the more turned on I become and therefore, the better I perform. You should try this too. Actually put so much effort into it that he can’t help but to be aroused by your fearless aggressiveness. If quiet and seductive is more your thing, even that will turn him on more than you acting like a scared or disgusted child around his manhood.
Now, because I don’t know where your skills already lie, I’m going to just give you a few basic pointers on giving oral sex.
Don’t make the ‘eww that’s nasty‘ face.
I mean, really… how would you like it if your man is getting ready to enjoy his “dessert” and makes the ‘eww that’s nasty’ face when he opens your legs–you’d be pissed! Hell, I know I would be. Remember that oral sex is supposed to be just as sensual and fulfilling as the physical act. At worst, think it–don’t show it. You know how it goes, fake it ’til you make it.
Yes, I know it kind of adds to the yuck factor for you, but I mean, it’s your mouth. I’m no fan of messy head myself, but some spit is necessary. It feels really great when it’s time to ride as well.. If anything, brush your teeth before you get started. The freshness from mouthwash and toothpaste is said to add an additional sensation for your partner anyway.
You’re supposed to suck it.
This one was actually brought to my attention from a friend of mine. He said this is the most forgotten tricks in the book. Don’t get carried away with trying to be a porn star and doing things you aren’t really capable of. Figure out how to comfortably fit him inside your mouth in a way that allows you to sensually suck on his manhood in a teeth-free, gag-less way and watch him melt. Don’t be afraid to go for the gold at times either–make it disappear!
Grip him firmly.
While, you’re working your magic, be sure to grasp him firmly at the base of his penis to help control the flow and motion between the two of you. DO NOT squeeze the life out of him, just grab firmly enough to be able to hold, stroke, and control his manhood while you’re doing your thing.
Make eye contact.
Don’t make it awkward and stare him down–unless you’ve got the seductive stare down packed, or course–but let him know that you’re there; that you’re the reason for his pleasure; and that you take pleasure in pleasing him.
Don’t rush it.
I know this might be a little challenging for you at first, but if you want to keep him, you’re going to have to get over your intimidation or dislike for giving head. Really take your time to make sure that you’re getting all of these small details in there when you’re pleasing him orally. Besides, the better you do him, the better he’ll return the favor more than likely!
Try those things on for size for now and let me know how things go! Again, I’m so glad you reached out and remember you can #AskIsis anything! Hope this helps!
Go get him girlfriend!