Girl stop wasting your time; you have to protect your time and energy, boo.
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned is that my time and my energy are a privilege, not a right! And it’s a lesson I intend to share with anyone who has not yet realized that.
There isn’t a single person on this Earth who is worth wasting your time and energy for.
Please stop wasting your time and energy on people who don’t deserve it. If you’re going to give away a piece of yourself, do it with reciprocity in mind. They may not give you the same thing (and that should tell you something), but in order to stop wasting your time, here are three things you should be giving to anyone you’re giving your time and energy to.
1. A listening ear.
We all like to be heard—and we deserve to be. There is nothing wrong with sharing your thoughts, your worries, or your story to those who are willing to listen to it. This includes friends, family, and/or random individuals. If you’re giving your time and energy to them, then I’m talking about that person particularly.
The people who love you will listen to you rant and rave for hours—and then hug you, curse you out, or hold you depending on the content. Don’t be an asshole and deny them their right to respond in their own way. You should be able to have honest, open conversations with anyone you choose to give your time and energy to.
2. A genuine laugh.
For the love of God, PLEASE stop wasting your time or energy on someone who can’t even make you laugh. You literally deserve MUCH better than that. I’m a firm believer that laughter and love are what fuels the mind and soul. If you don’t have those, you don’t have a whole lot to bank on—trust me. Again, it’s about reciprocity. If you’re a stick in the mud, then no I’m not talking to you. You have to be fair when expecting to receive something from someone.
Are you offering anything worth the exchange? Have a sense of humor. Don’t take things so seriously and take the chip off your shoulder so that someone out there can show you what it’s like to laugh from the gut. I’m talking about that laughter that will cause you to grow an extra ab or two! If you’ve never experienced a gut-wrenching laugh before, then you’re probably the problem. I’m just keeping it real!
3. A challenge.
Stop wasting your time and energy on the person who makes you work for theirs without reciprocation. Just writing that sentence turns me on. Seriously. You don’t have to look at it from a romantic standpoint either. You shouldn’t have friends or family that don’t challenge you to be better either. Stop wasting your time or energyon any relationship that you don’t feel challenged by! You should always try to pursue and/or foster a relationship with someone who challenges you to do all the shit you don’t really want to do, but that you need to do! It’s never comfortable at first, but it isn’t supposed to be and the person you are giving your time and energy to is sure to appreciate the effort to take that challenge head-on… I promise!
So stop wasting you time and energy! Be stingy with it! There is a whole lot more to look for and expect when you’re giving someone a piece of you, but again… make sure you’re receiving these three things at the very least or cut out of there at the very first chance you get!
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